Mother of 4 Grandmother of 10
I am not being critical, as some of my knowledge comes from my experience. It is vitally relevant that we comprehend, myself included, how we go about teaching our kids the many things we desire to see in them. If we sense our kids are not very empathetic, perhaps we should check on our own empathy towards others. If we show no care of others, then it will not be found in our kids.
I find the thing that brings the most heartache, and pain is disappointment. Every day there is so much need to face discouraging situations. At home it is frustrating if we feel the workload is not fairly divided. Loading the dishwasher which wasn’t supposed to be our job, gets irritating with every dish. Perhaps the job isn’t as hard as our anger at having to do it.
There is so much talk about forgiving others and that is as it should be. However, I believe we have forgotten to include ourselves in the mix. I hate to admit I have made a mistake. It is demeaning to me to be found in the wrong, I feel so terrible. I can assume we all get that sense when we honestly confront ourselves about an issue and find that we are wrong. It is so difficult to apologize and even harder to forgive ourselves.
What prevents us from moving forward is all the hidden hurts we tuck away into every corner of our minds and hearts. When these hurts occupy so much of our hearts it is extremely difficult to get over them and be in the present. We tend to review them over and over whenever they are brought to mind by a similar incident or when the person who caused the hurt is present.