Mothers-in-law who encourage any type of competition might find it can influence the closeness of their children. The result may be a competitive relationship amongst their children. Downplaying competitive behavior allows for a more supportive kind of connection to develop. None of us will discuss our mistakes or trials to another person who we view as a competitor rather than a supporter. We then lose the chance of gaining support and encouragement. Losing does not always spur a person to try harder.
Competing with siblings or siblings-in-law creates a no-win situation. Being right or wrong is not as important as how well everyone’s sense of worth remains intact. Maintain your self-confidence and be cognizant of the vulnerability in others. Words spoken from the tips of tongues are not profound deliberations.
This is a topic that would allow us to go on for months and possibly years. It would shock many of us to realize we are ever guilty of ungratefulness. None of us does it on purpose or plans it. It just happens. It happens too frequently nowadays. If we could look at the small things that go by unnoticed, it might help us catch a view of the larger things. A simple thing like holding a door is loaded with kindness. We just need to pay better attention to these minor acts of kindness which not only bring comfort to us but satisfaction to the person displaying the kindness.
Independence can mean different things to a variety of people. This liberty is necessary. Regarding the mother-in-law (MIL) and daughter-in-law (DIL) it allows one to accept help when one needs it and to refuse it when a person doesn’t want aid. We all have capacities and talents. If we trust ourselves and have confidence, we recognize, at times, the need to agree to another so as not to decimate their independence.