It is impossible to get away from thoughts about self. We focus our entire day on how we appear to others. No matter how much time we spend instructing ourselves to build that hard exterior, we cave in or dissolve it immediately when confronted with the slightest rejection. I am guilty of it myself. I feel so motivated to be strong, and I fortify myself with inner speeches. I walk out my front door, meet someone, and all my good plans are wasted.
Someone should always grant consideration to another person. A mother-in-law’s fairness to her daughter-in-law is out of respect for her son, and a daughter-in-law’s fairness to her mother-in-law is out of respect for her husband. We need to saturate our hearts with appreciation, deliberation, and honor. Treating another person decently or compassionately is showing regard. It is acceptable to give others respect, but it is necessary to first be aware of another’s existence.
I am not being critical, as some of my knowledge comes from my experience. It is vitally relevant that we comprehend, myself included, how we go about teaching our kids the many things we desire to see in them. If we sense our kids are not very empathetic, perhaps we should check on our own empathy towards others. If we show no care of others, then it will not be found in our kids.
I find the thing that brings the most heartache, and pain is disappointment. Every day there is so much need to face discouraging situations. At home it is frustrating if we feel the workload is not fairly divided. Loading the dishwasher which wasn’t supposed to be our job, gets irritating with every dish. Perhaps the job isn’t as hard as our anger at having to do it.
Whenever parents compare kids the consequences are harsh. Yet many parents who do not compare their kids still find competition rampant. Their kids compete if not with each other then with people in their social circles. I question where all of the competition begins and I find it never ends but appears to get worse.
Pride is having arrogance, egotism, self-importance, vanity and superiority. Those are n ot exactly the qualities most of us strive for. As a matter of fact we try to alleviate these from our own self. There are other definitions for pride such as self-esteem, respect, dignity, honor and self-respect. Now that list is one I would love to place my name on. Both lists refer to pride but certainly one list honors it while another appears to be disgraceful.
There is so much talk about forgiving others and that is as it should be. However, I believe we have forgotten to include ourselves in the mix. I hate to admit I have made a mistake. It is demeaning to me to be found in the wrong, I feel so terrible. I can assume we all get that sense when we honestly confront ourselves about an issue and find that we are wrong. It is so difficult to apologize and even harder to forgive ourselves.
I honestly believe our biggest fear is ourselves. That perhaps is why we spend so much time running around and keeping busy so we won’t have to face us. It is an absurd statement to make but I think it holds a lot of truth. Probably that is why we overreact when our child does something wrong. We can’t admit we see them behaving like us. That is why we overreact to our kids and other people who demonstrate actions we are guilty of. It is difficult to watch.