Having a passion for anything leads one into territory untraveled. We are all aware that mostly we are conformists. Nobody likes to be shunned or insulted, so we either fly below the radar or we are careful to state truth in ways that are palatable for others. Even with friends, we aren’t completely open about every subject. Perhaps it is also partially due to the fact that we don’t always agree and we don’t want to argue with friends.
I’m sure we have all heard the phrase, ‘What you don’t know won’t hurt you.’ Of course there are many ways to look at that. If we don’t know we are ill, then it might hurt us. We could debate this for hours, but I believe that what we haven’t stopped to consider will affect us in profound ways.
The word gossip brings cringes to most people. None of us like to be accused of gossiping. It is the most common form of recreation, that we all indulge in, no mater how old we are. Questioning our reasons for participating in it, is very important. Many times we lose sight of the damage that it causes. It appears to be harmless, so we rarely stop. Perhaps we should question why we feel the need to trash others. Again the use of the word trash makes us uncomfortable.
How pompous it is to assume we know what another is feeling or dealing with in their lives. I for one have done that so many times that I am drowning in my thoughts of regret. I said nothing hurtful to the people who were suffering with situations, but I never totally understood the depth of their problems. I now realize there are perhaps many issues others must face that are much more difficult than they appear on the surface.
It is getting closer to that time of year when everyone thinks about what is wrong in their lives. It is the holiday season, the time of year we quantify our happiness by how our gains measure up against another’s. The spouse is in jeopardy and the kids, though we love them, can be disappointing. We wonder if we created the mess or if the chaos simply arrives around the holidays. We spruce ourselves up and have faith we’ll get through it without too many obstacles. How sad to have to ‘get through’ some enjoyable times?
Without a doubt most people suffer from a lack of confidence. I am no exception. I know there are days when I can feel on top of the world. I have a good sense of self and feel ready to face the strongest foe. Unfortunately, that false sense of surety leaves me swiftly as soon as I meet with the first rebuff of the day. There is our problem.
What a profound question. I am not sure about the answer. Actually, my answer is no. I don’t see it, even in myself. Reviewing history makes anyone realize we appear to be making similar mistakes. I want to change for the better as much as anyone, but I’d like to do it my way and without disruptions to my life. That of course means placing my needs and wants first and worrying about self. I am not looking at the big picture of how much I might infringe on others in my pursuit of happiness.
How many of us have tunnel vision? It is simple to do and often happens. Maybe it occurs due to our earnest desire to get things done. We don’t want to waste time so we search for the quick meaning in any given situation. If one runs towards an injured person and misses the dangerous gas permeating a room, you are both in trouble. The same is true in life.
Most of us hide from truth. We never do it intentionally. We just have so much to think about. If truth is revealed, it requires attention and we have none to give. Living in a bubble is easiest. It is a Barbie doll world that we have created for ourselves. It lends itself to a constant bending of truth. The convenience of refraining from thought and reflection saves a lot of time and effort. The payment is falsehood.